What does it mean to be a friend? I’ve found myself thinking about this question a lot this week. It seems to me that a friend is one who accepts you, despite your faults. Today I found myself remembering a long ago monopoly game, played on a front porch in New Orleans. It was a game that showed me that someone I had looked up to and respected could be a poor loser and a bad sport. That is what games do I think, allow us to see how others act under different circumstances.
For the record, we had a very nice lunch yesterday. We both liked the restaurant and very much enjoyed our meal out. Yet the words I had with my other friend continue to leave me feeling great frustration. It’s not that any of his criticisms were off base. Honestly? I was already well aware of all of the faults he mentioned. I think we all of us have faults, and it does seem to me that part of being a friend is accepting and loving each other, damaged and as we are. It seems to me ridiculously easy to tell someone you’ve come to know well exactly what you have perceived is wrong with them. But it hardly seems kind. Nor very sporting for that matter. I certainly didn’t consider his remarks a favor.
It was interesting to me that the image search for these three terms brought up this social media monopoly board. It amused me that Linked in is the least valuable property on the board and the jail is Myspace. The four phones in place of the railroads and the Technorati and Mashable cards also amused me. I did find myself wondering how appropriate placing the blogging platforms in the dark orange area was, though at the moment it’s not surprising that Twitter and Facebook are in the Partk Place and Boardwalk positions. Monopoly at this point seems to me such an old-fashioned, low-tech sort of game that I can’t honestly imagine playing it. Even if I were confident my companions were up to it. And even if we had this cool new-fangled social media edition.
‘sup. My wonderful friend Tom Cooley showed me how to make a superscript number in WordPress. I actually do understand how tags work in HTML and have been known to occasionally venture away from the visual editor and actually edit just a bit of HTML to accomplish some thing or other that I couldn’t quite manage in the visual editor. And it turns out that the tag ”sup” (don’t try to display braces in a blog post– it can be done but it’s a huge pita) is the key to creating superscript numbers.2
I have been trying to learn more about WordPress.com. In many ways it is the same as the self-hosted WordPress I’ve been using for years now, although there are some differences. There are also a number of community aspects that are unique to WP.com which simply don’t apply to self-hosted blogs. I have figured out how to specify the blog you use the most as your “primary” blog, which I believe (though do not know for a fact) matters a great deal to how Empire Avenue computes your WordPress.com score.
I have one Empire Avenue acquaintance whose WP.com icon on his EAv profile connects to a WP error page that says ”This blog has been suspended to a violation of our Terms Of Service”. His EAv WP score is 5. My own WP icon on EAv remains connected to my book review blog, even though I changed my primary blog to this one. (Click here for instructions if you want to try that.) And while both my primary and secondary blogs have hundreds of posts and hundreds of comments AND thanks to Empire Avenue missions I have been getting lots of traffic, lots of shares and a pretty high number of comments on this blog, my WP.com score remains….2.3
Clearly, I don’t yet understand how Empire Avenue is scoring the WordPress.com connections. And somehow I don’t think it would improve Walking Down The Avenue a great deal to add a new section that says ”after careful observation, in as much as I can tell, the scores seem to be assigned pretty much at random”. Part of me is really enjoying this new personal blog, and the freedom to write every day about pretty much whatever the heck I darned well feel like. But the part of me that really wants to get the book updated and a new release published…kind of just wants to scream.
1–this first foot note is purely decorative, and has no function whatsoever.
2–this second foot note is also purely decorative, though it was thrilling to me to be putting in a second superscript number, no sweat.
3–this final foot note is a bitter dose of irony
Update: It occurred to me to disconnect my WP.com from Empire Avenue and reconnect it. And choose the correct blog on reconnecting. We’ll see how that works out.